Are you a Feeling Woman?

 

Over the years I’ve come to accept that I am a “feeling” woman. Not to be confused with being “emotional”. Feeling is something different from acting emotional. Not that there is anything wrong with emotions. On the contrary, in order to really express our true emotions, we need to feel them first. 

Let me explain what I mean by being a “feeling” woman. 

I make decisions and live life today based on how I feel and not how things look. 

I eat amazing salads, and whole foods because they make me feel good. It has nothing to do with how I look and everything to do with how I feel. Happy tummy, clear mind, energized body, relaxed confidence moving through my day. No more stress about what I “should” or “shouldn’t” eat in order to “look” a certain way. No more obsessing with what is on my plate. No strict rules to follow. I’m in tune with what works for my body to give me the energy, health and vitality that allows me to be the mom, wife, and coach to my clients that I want to be. Present, loving, kind and empowered.  (And, I go out for pizza and wine when I feel like it, guilt free.) 

I removed my breast implants because they were making me feel sick in my body and mind. I had capsular contraction and scar tissue building up that was causing severe pain. I could of had them replaced, but I didn’t. I chose not to because I realized that I was chasing the finish line of an image of perfection that did not exist.  Today I love my body. Deformity of my breasts from having the implant removed and all. I chose something different. I chose to accept and love me. Not an image of what our culture puts out there as beautiful. But the real, authentic me. 

I left a 17 year marriage because it was toxic and we were hurting each other and making each other sick. I could no longer live with how I felt. On the outside everything looked great, but I was falling apart on the inside and my body was telling me with trips to the doctor and hospital for “mysterious” digestive issues and inflammation. I knew I had to make changes and be the mother my kids deserved and the confident women I deserved. I left the comfort of being a stay at home mom, living on a 50 acre farm in the country, in a house that I designed, decorated and birthed my second child in, to feel good in my heart and my soul. 

I went back to school to do something that inspired me and gave me a feeling of purpose and empowerment. To be a healer. Why a healer? Because I knew first hand that when we teach what we learn and share that with others, even showing the scars from those learnings, that we continue to heal ourselves and empower others to heal too. 

I’ve experienced the stress, overwhelm and exhaustion of trying to get through divorce, go back to school while homeschooling my kids,  build a business, raise a family and support a new marriage. I’ve learned along the way what serves me, what doesn’t and how to make shifts to help me make choices that are in alignment with my most authentic truth and version of who I want to be and how I want to feel.  I continue to learn each day and embrace that. I don’t have to show perfect, be perfect or get it all “right.” I’ve learned to trust my feelings, and listen to my body when it needs rest. I see self-care as a way to acknowledge my body, mind and spirits needs and to answer those needs. A stressed out, overwhelmed, cranky mother and wife does not serve me or my family. Nor does it allow me to be present with my clients in walking authentically with them on their own journey of healing. 

Today I FEEL great! I have a fulfilling career as a heart centered healer. As a Massage Therapist and a Transformational Health Coach get to empower other women to make choices and shifts that allows them to live from a place of relaxed confidence and fullness. Letting go of the “should’s”, and “have to’s” and move into the place of “GET TO’s!” Opening up choice to allow them to see the full possibility of what what living a joyful, healthy, energized life FEELS like. I “Get To” travel with my husband and go for hikes and fill my soul in nature. I “Choose” to listen, honor and trust my feelings and body. 

So let me ask you, have you learned to trust your feelings? Your bodies messages to stop, slow down and take care of you? Are you listening? Acknowledging? Or are you numbing out with too much wine, sugar and chips and cheese binges? Do you push the feelings away and try to live life powering through your to do list? I hope not, there’s no deep rooted joy in that. But if you are, No judgment here. I’ve been there and done that too. 

And I know you can change that and trust your feelings, follow their guidance, step into your most powerful and authentic self and make choices from there that give you a sense of freedom and fulfillment. I hold you fully capable, and you might just need some help getting there. If this sounds like you and you want to get out of the stress, overwhelm and stuck places sucking the joy out of you, I can help. It would be my absolute pleasure to help. Because You deserve more! More Joy, More balance, More energy, More confidence, More presence with your family, More doing fun things, and most of all, more being in love with YOU! 

Let’s have some 1-1 time in a 90 minute session to get the needle moving forward for you. I promise it will give you some a-ha moments and open up more choice and possibility for you. 

You’ll get this 90 minute session, plus a follow up 30 minute session for ONLY $97. 

YES, I want some freedom and aha moments 

What is your peace of mind, renewed sense of self and confidence worth to you? I hope it’s worth MUCH more than $97. 

It’s my way of serving you, and being able to continue to do this work to help change the cultural entrainments keeping women focused on image instead of true health, and empowerment. 

Fee Free to share this with anyone else who you feel can relate. Together we create a self-care revolution. 

Warmly,

Chris

The quickest way to start getting your energy back

Hi Sweet Friends,

Who here often feels overly tired? Who here can relate to wanting to do more fun things with your family or friends, but just don’t have enough energy to do it or feel in shape enough to enjoy it? Who here feels like they are taking care of everyone else with no time to take care of themselves? Who here can remember a time in your life when it felt easier to eat well and follow through?

And who here suffers from some kind of stress – from work, family, life, in their day-to-day lives? Most of us right!?

As a Transformational Health Coach and Nutritional Therapy Practitioner,  I specialize in working with women who can remember at one time eating better, taking care of themselves better, but somewhere along the line – be it their career, their family life, they have put themselves on the back burner and that burner is nearly off. And this is quite common for women in their 40s and 50s.

Today I want to share with you the quickest way to get back on track and reclaim your health and your energy so you can feel like yourself again, no matter what your age. 

I’m going to share with you 1 powerful mindset shift that has helped me and my clients get back on track to feeling good again and finally resolve feeling overly tired, experiencing up and down moods, feeling forgetful and feeling like they only have the energy for chips for dinner. 

So where is the best place to start so you get results quick?

The first shift is understanding that eating REAL Food Really Can Make A BIG Difference!

Depending on what you eat, Food can make you sick or It can make you feel energized and vibrant. 

Each meal, each day can send you into the direction of feeling stronger, clear, more energized or more and more depleted. It’s THAT powerful.

A balanced plate with real food creates balanced blood sugar and that equals balanced energy and balanced moods.

 And if you have better energy and moods, how does that affect your thinking? You think better. Your actions? You do better. 

Food is the fastest way to feel better.

So let’s take a look at this whole blood sugar thing, what it is and how to make a few tweaks to your plate to eat for energy. 



Let’s take a quick look at what’s happening in the body when you eat lots of sugar or processed foods and why we experience that awesome sugar high. And what happens when you throw stress into the mix.

Products containing lots of sugar usually don’t contain lots of fiber, fat or protein. Fiber, fat and protein slow down sugar absorption, so when those nutrients aren’t present, your blood sugar shoots up really fast, like to the top of a roller coaster.

 

 

Now at the top of this roller coaster, your brain is alerted. Your brain uses about 50% of your blood sugar at any given time, so any drastic rise (due to sugar) or fall (not eating) in your blood sugar levels cause your brain to flip out. So when you’re blood sugar spikes up, your brain and your body aren’t happy – to YOUR body, THIS IS AN EMERGENCY.

So what does your body do? Your pancreas secretes the hormone INSULIN to bring your blood sugar back down.

Here’s the problem. We have spent a lifetime eating a lot of high-sugar, processed products – so insulin has gotten really used to doing its job too well.

When insulin is sent out, it doesn’t just bring your blood sugar back down into balance, there’s often too much insulin secreted, and our blood sugar dips way down. And that’s the blood sugar crash you feel after the sugar high – that shaky, spaced out, forgetful, uncomfortable feeling.

So you’ve had a blood sugar crash – now what does your body crave when you are down there and still stressed, in the middle that nasty crash? MORE SUGAR! And what happens to our blood sugar when we eat the sugar again? It goes up, up, up – back to the top of that roller coaster.

And so the up and down cycle continues. This is one of the reasons we quite literally love carbs and sugar and crave it constantly and when our bodies are stressed, we lose control of some of our brain function to stay mindful and calm to then make healthy decisions. Think HANGRY and eating whatever is in the pantry when we get home from work.

And there’s a little more to the story…..

After the hormone insulin is sent out to take excess sugar out of the bloodstream, it has three places it can take that sugar:

1. Your brain
2. Your blood cells
3. Your muscles

Now if all those receptors are full because you’ve been eating a lot of sugar already, where does that excess sugar go?

Yep, right on the belly & hips. That excess sugar is stored as FAT in all the places we don’t want it!

And our bodies can become resistant to the insulin. That’s the first step on the path to diabetes.

Now here’s yet another not-so-thrilling thing. When your body is producing insulin to bring you down from the sugar high, it can’t produce what’s called glucagon. Glucagon is very important especially if you are trying to shed excess weight because it’s the hormone that takes fat out of storage to be burned.
So if you are eating sugar, not only are you probably storing some of it as fat, you also can’t release fat to be burned, because the sugar blocks glucagon production and fat-burning. That’s a bummer.

And here’s something else I want you to consider: these days, many health-conscious people know their blood sugar levels go up and down on a sugar-induced high, but they often don’t realize the emotional roller coaster ride that accompanies this. We feel happy and energetic for a while and then suddenly, unexplainably, we find ourselves arguing with our friend or lover, stressed, or mentally beating ourselves up. Our moods are all over the place. Has anyone experienced that? Yeah, that’s a bummer too. So how do we fix this? With a balanced plate to help balance our blood sugar.

What does a balanced plate look like?


When we have a balanced plate with the right portions of protein, healthy fats, and lower sugar carbs, our body has the right mix of fuel to keep your energy sustained. Think of a campfire. When you build a campfire, you start with kindling. It lights up fast and burns up fast. Kindling is like Carbs. It gets burned up quickly, so if we eat too many carbs, we are constantly hungry and looking for fuel. Fats and Protein are the big logs on the fire. When we add those to our place, our body now has fuel for a long burn. We feel satisfied and have the energy to get from one meal to the next without carb or sugar cravings, energy crashed or erratic moods.

So a balanced plate will create stable energy and stable moods by balancing our blood sugar.

We start with nutrition because it’s an easy place to start that has a HUGE impact on how you feel. And when you feel better you make better choices and have the energy to even want to exercise, or start a meditation practice or go for a hike with the family. You are taking proactive measures to feel good AND avoid the lifestyle diseases like diabetes, obesity and heart disease.

So what to do next?

 

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How To Make Self-Care A Priority

 

Welcome Friend

I am so glad you are here. Give yourself full permission to pause. Take a deep breath and soften the outer edges of your body. We are so used to getting caught in the chaos of life . We let go of the balance of our life because we have so many demands. There is this idea that we can’t fall behind . We need to fix everything. If it’s not one thing it’s another. We can’t always eliminate the stressors of our life because our lives are constantly changing and so does the finish line. But we can be aware of how stress affects us, and with that awareness we get to choose how to respond. We get to decide which activities and choices we engage in. Other than exacerbate our stress we can mindfully reduce it by making choices in the activities and habits that create balance and maintain our health. When we are stressed we neglect these things because the stressors become the focus of our life. We don’t eat well, we don’t sleep, we don’t engage in movement we actually enjoy,  we don’t see our family and friends, we don’t take time to rest and rejuvenate. This leads to things like insomnia, high blood pressure, weight gain, fatigue, anxiety, isolation and burnout. Not only can lack of balance and health add to our current stress, it escalates the deterioration of our health down the road. We need to prioritize our health balance and well-being. This is your invitation to step into this place of balance to reclaim your health and wellbeing.

 

As a massage therapy or health coaching client of mine, you know that I strive to be of service in creating health and wellness in the lives of others. I especially have a heart for woman. We as women have the pressure of being so many things to others that we put our own health and lives on hold. But here’s the thing, when we don’t take care of ourselves we can’t fully take care of others. An empty well provides no water. We need to fill our well first and give from overflowing so we can step fully into our authentic selves and be the confident, strong, happy and fulfilled women we are called to be.

 

Putting our self-care last serves no one. I’ve learned that myself. I’ve lived in that place and it doesn’t feel good or make my family happy. It actually causes greater pain and stress for everyone. Coming home tired, cranky and worn out is just not the way I wanted to live. So I took back the reins of my life. I started with small manageable changes that I could pleasurably commit to. I started with nourishing my body and honoring my hunger and fullness. I fed my body nourishing foods that gave me energy rather than depleting my energy. Then I learned how to honor my Yes’s and my No’s. I made myself a priority and only said yes to things that I knew would serve my family and my well-being and said no to the things that didn’t. This created freedom to do the things I loved. Spend quality time with my kids. Spend time in nature. I got out my knitting projects again. I scheduled time to be with my girlfriends that lift me up and love all of me. My husband and I put ourselves on the calendar for a weekly date night and I began upping my self-care by getting a weekly massage. And you know what? I feel amazing. I feel more balanced, relaxed, confident and fulfilled. It opened up a place for me to discern what really makes me come alive. I became more empowered to make choices that help me maintain this health and balance so that I can continue to be present and giving to you my clients, and to my family and myself.

It was a process. It didn’t happen overnight. But because I started small with manageable changes in the context of my busy life, my habits stuck. (I have a business to run, a husband to love and a family with 5 kids in our clan, so I know what busy looks like.) I get it! I’ve been there. I know the struggle is real.  But now I have a new healthy foundation that has been laid, and I choose where to go next. And you can do this too. I want to help you step into the fullness and fulfillment that I know you can experience.

 

If any of this resonates with you, let’s chat. I offer a FREE 45 min. empowerment session to help you uncover what you have put on hold, and what is stopping you or slowing you down from living the life that makes you feel confident and fulfilled. It’s a strings attached session. You will get valuable tools in this session to help you create a plan to moving forward. And if you decide I can be helpful to you, we can talk about how to work together to get you back on track and put you back on the priority list of your life.

 

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My $10,000 Lesson In Self Love

 

 Authenticity and Integrity have always been a heart centered way for me to walk my walk in truth. Today I am throwing in some vulnerability in an up close real way. Life is messy sometimes and I am bearing a piece of my soul and life that has gotten messy. 

This morning I had surgery to have an explant of my breast implants.

5 1/2 years ago, before I was working as a massage therapist and before I became a Nutritional Therapy Practitioner and a Holistic Health Coach, I got breast implants.  

I got implants because I was feeling that to fit into the culture of beauty around me, my own breasts that had fed my children for so many years, were less than. They didn’t measure up to the world’s view of beauty and therefore I didn’t measure up to the worlds view of beauty in my own mind. I felt that If I had better breasts, I would love myself more, value myself more, and finally stop the critical mean girl in my mind. And guess what? That mean girl didn’t go away. She stayed despite having “better boobs” and she found other things to criticize and be dissatisfied within her. I had beautiful breasts but didn’t feel the way I thought I would. Isn’t that sometimes the case in life. We get something we want, only to find that the thing we wanted wasn’t fulfilling at all. It made me take a good hard look at the “elephant in the room” that many women see and feel but don’t talk about. This body hate that is perpetuated by the media and ourselves to be what the world says is beautiful. This outside view of beauty that I grew up with that says to be physically beautiful is to be valued. Beauty that is based on a body that is skinny, toned, firm, flat abs and the “right” number on the scale or jeans size. Crazy right! But true. I began to notice the mean girl showing up more and more in my mind. I clearly remember my husband saying to me one night “I am so sorry that your mind is so hard on itself!” And he was right. The transformation to LOVE my body and myself would NEVER come from changing the outside. It would only happen by changing my thoughts, and having compassion for the mean girl who wanted to be valued, loved and accepted as a beautiful woman. 

And so I began my own personal growth journey, to love the skin I am in.

No matter what my belly looks like, or the stretch marks from having birthed 3 amazing children, or the extra weight that creeped up over the years, or the lines around my eyes, or the silver in my hair or the double chin. What I REALLY wanted wasn’t “better boobs, or a better body,” What I wanted was to fully and truly love me; the whole amazing, messy, striving me. 

I went back to school to study nutritional therapy as a way to learn how food affects our emotions and our minds as well as our bodies, and transformational health coaching as a way to uncover the belief systems we hold that creates our view of the world.  A way to not only heal myself and uncover the belief systems that said I was “less than and needed to be more,” but to help inspire and empower other women to heal themselves too. To help us all see our value in terms of health in our body, minds, emotions and spirits. An inner power and value based on who we are, as we are, in ALL of our messiness. I learned first hand that measuring up physically to the worlds idea of beauty, does NOT create a healthy mind or healthy emotions or a joyful spirit. It actually fueled my inner mean girl. 

Then the irony and serendipity of life occurred. Just when I had these “better boobs” paid off, I found out that I needed to get them removed. My body did NOT want them. The body is amazing at healing itself, and it decided that these implants needed to be walled off and encapsulated. Stage 3 encapsulation is what they call it. I did have the option of having them replaced, but decided against it for several reasons. First, I was having problems in other areas of my body that I didn’t even know could be attributed to breast implants. My eyesight had started getting much worse; I started having a hard time remembering conversations; my muscles began to hurt and began causing lack of mobility in my shoulders, so much so that it was affecting my workouts and my job as a massage therapist. I need my shoulders and mobility. In looking back over the timeline, all of this dysfunction started to happen AFTER I had the implants put in. A friend of mine here in Charlotte, had gone through her own issues with her implants and recommended that I do some research into breast implant sickness. In doing that research I was shocked to see a familiarity in many of my symptoms. Breast Implant sickness is a real thing and I never knew.

But more importantly, I decided against replacing my implants because I am in a different place in my own mind and journey of loving myself and loving the skin I am in. ALL OF ME. Soft saggy boobs, mama belly and all. I have the opportunity to really walk my walk. To be real and authentic and stand in my truth to accept and heal those parts that I rejected earlier in life.  

 This is my $10,000 lesson. $7,000 to get implants put in, and $3,000 to get them taken out. A $10,000 transformation in body and mind. 

I am grateful for this gift that God has woven into my life, to look at myself with compassion and to lean into love. To become empowered and radiant in the knowledge that I am loved and valued. To take my discovery and healing and use it as a way to encourage and inspire other women who struggle right along with me with this culture of needing to be too thin, but never quite good enough. This mentality is the “elephant in the room.”  We feel it and strive to overcome it, but rarely admit it.

I am a healer. Of myself and others in redefining our relationship with our bodies. The mentality that keeps us hating our bodies needs to change. The “diet” mentality that keeps women striving to be thinner to find their value is a billion dollar industry and feeds off our insecurities. It’s an illusion and I know it well. I have lived in it for too many years. 

My purpose and passion has always been one of nourishing others. Whether that comes in the form of education in eating real whole foods so that we can live healthy energetic lives, or cooking classes to put the power of what we put into our bodies back into our own hands, through stress management, self care, massage therapy, or helping woman live from a sense of fullness rather than depletion in our “too fast, keep going” world. This personal challenge of mine is fuel for that purpose. To encourage women from a place of knowing what it feels like when the mean girl voice shows up. And to choose a different voice to listen to.

Today begins my first day of healing in my body, but healing will continue in my mind, my emotions, my spirit and draw me closer to loving myself more fully each day. I know many women are thinking some of the same things, but are afraid to say them out loud. It needs to be said. To be spoken. Because in owning our stories, our trials, our gifts, we become transformed and the process allows transformation to create a ripple to effect others. I hope to be one of those ripples.