Over the years I’ve come to accept that I am a “feeling” woman. Not to be confused with being “emotional”. Feeling is something different from acting emotional. Not that there is anything wrong with emotions. On the contrary, in order to really express our true emotions, we need to feel them first.
Let me explain what I mean by being a “feeling” woman.
I make decisions and live life today based on how I feel and not how things look.
I eat amazing salads, and whole foods because they make me feel good. It has nothing to do with how I look and everything to do with how I feel. Happy tummy, clear mind, energized body, relaxed confidence moving through my day. No more stress about what I “should” or “shouldn’t” eat in order to “look” a certain way. No more obsessing with what is on my plate. No strict rules to follow. I’m in tune with what works for my body to give me the energy, health and vitality that allows me to be the mom, wife, and coach to my clients that I want to be. Present, loving, kind and empowered. (And, I go out for pizza and wine when I feel like it, guilt free.)
I removed my breast implants because they were making me feel sick in my body and mind. I had capsular contraction and scar tissue building up that was causing severe pain. I could of had them replaced, but I didn’t. I chose not to because I realized that I was chasing the finish line of an image of perfection that did not exist. Today I love my body. Deformity of my breasts from having the implant removed and all. I chose something different. I chose to accept and love me. Not an image of what our culture puts out there as beautiful. But the real, authentic me.
I left a 17 year marriage because it was toxic and we were hurting each other and making each other sick. I could no longer live with how I felt. On the outside everything looked great, but I was falling apart on the inside and my body was telling me with trips to the doctor and hospital for “mysterious” digestive issues and inflammation. I knew I had to make changes and be the mother my kids deserved and the confident women I deserved. I left the comfort of being a stay at home mom, living on a 50 acre farm in the country, in a house that I designed, decorated and birthed my second child in, to feel good in my heart and my soul.
I went back to school to do something that inspired me and gave me a feeling of purpose and empowerment. To be a healer. Why a healer? Because I knew first hand that when we teach what we learn and share that with others, even showing the scars from those learnings, that we continue to heal ourselves and empower others to heal too.
I’ve experienced the stress, overwhelm and exhaustion of trying to get through divorce, go back to school while homeschooling my kids, build a business, raise a family and support a new marriage. I’ve learned along the way what serves me, what doesn’t and how to make shifts to help me make choices that are in alignment with my most authentic truth and version of who I want to be and how I want to feel. I continue to learn each day and embrace that. I don’t have to show perfect, be perfect or get it all “right.” I’ve learned to trust my feelings, and listen to my body when it needs rest. I see self-care as a way to acknowledge my body, mind and spirits needs and to answer those needs. A stressed out, overwhelmed, cranky mother and wife does not serve me or my family. Nor does it allow me to be present with my clients in walking authentically with them on their own journey of healing.
Today I FEEL great! I have a fulfilling career as a heart centered healer. As a Massage Therapist and a Transformational Health Coach get to empower other women to make choices and shifts that allows them to live from a place of relaxed confidence and fullness. Letting go of the “should’s”, and “have to’s” and move into the place of “GET TO’s!” Opening up choice to allow them to see the full possibility of what what living a joyful, healthy, energized life FEELS like. I “Get To” travel with my husband and go for hikes and fill my soul in nature. I “Choose” to listen, honor and trust my feelings and body.
So let me ask you, have you learned to trust your feelings? Your bodies messages to stop, slow down and take care of you? Are you listening? Acknowledging? Or are you numbing out with too much wine, sugar and chips and cheese binges? Do you push the feelings away and try to live life powering through your to do list? I hope not, there’s no deep rooted joy in that. But if you are, No judgment here. I’ve been there and done that too.
And I know you can change that and trust your feelings, follow their guidance, step into your most powerful and authentic self and make choices from there that give you a sense of freedom and fulfillment. I hold you fully capable, and you might just need some help getting there. If this sounds like you and you want to get out of the stress, overwhelm and stuck places sucking the joy out of you, I can help. It would be my absolute pleasure to help. Because You deserve more! More Joy, More balance, More energy, More confidence, More presence with your family, More doing fun things, and most of all, more being in love with YOU!
Let’s have some 1-1 time in a 90 minute session to get the needle moving forward for you. I promise it will give you some a-ha moments and open up more choice and possibility for you.
You’ll get this 90 minute session, plus a follow up 30 minute session for ONLY $97.
What is your peace of mind, renewed sense of self and confidence worth to you? I hope it’s worth MUCH more than $97.
It’s my way of serving you, and being able to continue to do this work to help change the cultural entrainments keeping women focused on image instead of true health, and empowerment.
Fee Free to share this with anyone else who you feel can relate. Together we create a self-care revolution.